How To Deal With Intimacy Issues In Your Relationship

     Intimacy issues are very common. However, very few couples are able to reconcile their differences and find common ground again after experiencing them. This is, sadly, due to the fact that few people know how to effectively communicate today.

     If intimacy issues have become a problem in your relationship, then you need to take action. The sooner you take action, the easier it’ll be for you to resolve your problems. This post will cover this topic in more detail, explaining how you can deal with intimacy issues in your relationship, as well as what’s behind most intimacy issues.

How To Deal With Intimacy Issues In Your Relationship
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Understanding Cause

     If you have intimacy issues in your relationship, then the first thing that you need to do is to figure out what’s causing them. There are a lot of potential causes of intimacy issues. One of the most common, according to this website, is erectile dysfunction, or ED. If you are suffering from this issue, then it’s essential that you reach out to your physician and bring it up. Impotence can be disastrous to your relationship. Your partner isn’t going to want to stay with you if you cannot satisfy them. If you cannot get an erection, then sex will be off of the cards. Sooner or later, they will want you to take action, or they will want to start seeing other people. Sex is a big deal for most people.

Sexual Therapy

     If the reason you aren’t having sex with your partner is because of some kind of infidelity or disagreement, then sex therapy might be something that’s worth considering. The only downside to sex therapy is that it tends to be very expensive. If you are on a tight budget or do not have health insurance, then it might not be something you can afford. If you can afford it though, then check it out. Sex therapy can help you to improve your sex life, as well as understand more about your partner, and build your relationship with them so that it’s a lot stronger.

Making Changes

     Sometimes, the reason couples experience intimacy issues is that they disagree on things and are not feeling particularly close to one another. Therapy can help with this. However, if therapy is not an option, then it’s essential that such couples start working together to make positive changes. Positive changes are not difficult to make, as long as you have the right attitude. You both need to compromise. If the reason you aren’t having sex is because of frequent arguments, then sit down with your partner and talk through your differences. If it is because one person is being selfish in bed, then again, this needs to change.

Sexual Experimentation

     Occasionally, couples develop intimacy issues because they are no longer excited by each other. It is completely natural, over time, for people to lose interest. Most couples stop having sex entirely after they have been together for a while. If you suspect that you aren’t having as much sex because of how long you have been with your partner, then experimentation could be a good way of livening things up. Consider trying new things in bed that you otherwise wouldn’t, like toys, threesomes, or watching pornography together.

Being Open

     If you are unhappy with your partner’s sexual performance, then you need to be open with them. If you continue to allow them to underperform, then they will never get better. Poor sexual performance is a very common thing, sadly. The primary cause of it is that people seldom tell their sexual partners when they aren’t performing well. This leads to people underperforming without ever knowing that they aren’t satisfying their partners. Conversations around performance and sex can be delicate. Be gentle when you are expressing yourself to your partner, otherwise, you could hurt their feelings.

Having Confidence

     Confidence in bed is essential. If the reason you are underperforming is that you lack confidence, then you need to start working on improving it. There’s no reason to be shy or anxious in bed, sex is completely normal. If you are suffering from confidence issues, then express this to your partner. As long as they have been with you for a while and are kind and understanding, they should not look at you any differently and will try and help you. If you tell someone you have just met though, they might not want to see you again, so save confessions about confidence for partners or people you know very well.

     Sex is an important part of many people’s lives. If you aren’t having much of it with your partner anymore, then you need to take action. The solutions listed here are all highly effective ways of improving one’s sex life.